Hi everyone,
You can post your stories as comments in this section. I'm looking forward to reading them.
Here's my story:
I am a 21 year old female and I have had hirsutism for as long as I can remember. I'm going to copy-paste parts of a letter that I wrote to a homeopath just recently. I will start seeing her soon. Hopefully it will be something fruitful (fingers crossed)
"I have had blood tests that show normal hormonal levels, and will get myself checked for PCOS soon. My periods are also regular. My hair growth is definately excessive, occuring very visibly all over my body. According to my understanding it is mostly terminal hair, with vellus hairs occuring on my back, chest, shoulders, stomach, and buttocks. However, even these are quite long and are getting thicker as I get older. I was wondering what I could do about this. The doctor at my university recommended birth control pills and laser hair removal, neither which I am comfortable with at this point (and the latter also being rather expensive for me at ths point). The hair removal methods that I do use are: threading (face), waxing (anywhere else on my body) and shaving occasionally.
...
To give you a bit more information on myself:
-I have mainly been following a vegan diet for the past 2 years avoiding alchohol, caffeine and processed food
-I suffered from an eating disorder around age 16 which exacerbated my hirsutism (more vellus hairs), but upon dealing with that problem, my levels are back to normal.
-I unfortunately do not have a regular excercise schedule at all
-my background is South Asian. However, nobody in my immediate family is hirsuite
-I have been hirsuite since I was a child, so it is not something that came with the onset of puberty
...
I guess to put simply, I would kind of want to wear a nice dress, maybe learn how to swim, and perhaps even go on a date at least once before I die. "
Note: I got myself checked for PCOS and I am clear for it.
My hirsutism has bothered me greatly in the past, but I am dealing with it better now. I think some of it has to do with an acceptance of it on my part as worrying about it became a bit repetitive and futile. I guess it isnt all that bad, because it has taught me to value the intellect, including my own. I am going to admit that it does get a bit hard. Even though I have accepted the reality of hirutism in my life, I struggle accepting my body. I often feel like I was meant to be a man and went through a phase of some serious gender dysphoria that lasted quite a while. I'm a bit awkward with myself and the way I dress sometimes because I'm very careful with how much skin I show (and dont show). I have had to push several people away in the past for fear of ending up in an intimate relationship with them, or showing signs that I desired such a thing, inspite of how much I may have liked or even loved them. Some of you might be able to expose yourself in these situations, but I have not yet been able to. I really hate how I have to curb my spontaneity as I am quite outgoing and easy-going by nature, but overtime I have become timid and shy. I am trying to get over this and I know that I can (you can too).
As you all know, the list can go on. This is a peculiar problem as those that don't have it dont think much of it, or realize the immense psychological, spiritual and emotional impacts it can have. Sometimes I wonder when I will be able to lead a normal life but sometimes I feel like I am getting there.
I really wish I could be more positive about this as I know I sound a bit despondant. I guess this is just another journey and it is up to me to decide which direction I want to travel. The world is really just too beautiful a place to roam with closed eyes and a cold heart.
I wish you all the best,
Lots of love, hugs and warmth,
A.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI have been searching for some kind of support group concerning this topic as it gets hard to cope with alone.
I have been suffering from hirsutism for as long as I can remember. I am now 26 and while I think that I have been able to adapt and accept that this problem is just a part of my life, sometimes I slip. Or even worse, sometimes when you think when you have it under control and you feel normal, a circumstance or person remind you differently.
I have read a lot of what you have wrote Anima. I appreciate your courage in discussing this problem so openly. I have NEVER talked about it outside of a doctor's office. This is a big step for me.
I think for now, I will wait to share my story as I need to get comfortable talking about this.
I just wanted to reply to your posting to thank you for your words. There is nothing greater in this world than knowing that you are not alone. And this, you have successfully done.
Take care,
M
Hi M,
ReplyDeleteSorry for taking a month to reply! I stopped checking the blog for sometime, but it was a wonderful surprise to find your comment. Thank you!
I am looking into getting a free website in place of this blog as it will be easier to maintain, navigate and place information on. I hope that this place can be of furthur use to you.
Thank you so much for your words, as I myself can feel a bit alone sometimes. Take your time in sharing your story, but I promise that once you do, it will be worthwhile.
Thanks again for your comment. I wish you the very best.
Care taken and given back,
A.
I have been dealing with the same problem since 13 years old. I am 22 now and finally able to afford electrolisis. I have had 1 treatment so far and another this evening. It's painful because I have so much on my face. Hopfully it will be worth the pain and money!
DeleteHello!
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy that I found this, even though I think it might take a while for you to reply (if at all).
I've been feeling kind of depressed lately because of all the things I'm not brave enough to do because of my hirsutism.
I'm 14 years old and I've been hairy all my life. The teasing was really bad when I started school, but people don't care as much anymore. Still, I try to remove as much of my facial hair as I can and cover up everything else. I'm still really uncomfortable around other people.
I haven't been to a doctor about this, but all the reading I've done basically leads to birth control (hormone pills) and electrolysis/laser hair removal. Like you, there aren't really ideal options for me. And I'm not really liking the idea of going to the doctor...I'm worried that they won't think it's a real problem...but it is.
Also, I'm not anorexic or anything...but I am underweight (by at least 10 lbs). I am also vegetarian. I've been trying to gain weight, but it's difficult for me. I've even thought about eating meat for a while to try and gain weight, but I'm not really sure. I'd really rather not, it's pretty gross, and it's not like my life is in immediate danger anyways.
I feel like I can relate to you a lot! I want to learn to swim, I want to join the rowing team, I want to wear a two-piece without spending hours shaving and a coverup thinger, I want to be able to wear a dress with short sleeves without long gloves or thick stockings, and I want to have a relationship with someone.
Anyways, I hope you check back soon. I've been looking around online a lot lately to see if I could find some support.
Dearest Kokeshi,
ReplyDeleteI have just read your comment, but please don't think that I wont reply! This will be a short message as I have to leave for work in a few minutes, but I will get back to you later.
I apologise for the lack of effort that I have been putting in to this blog. I'll be honest: sometimes I myself lose hope, but it is messages such as yours and M's that rid me of my doubts and keep me going.
This last year has been fairly turbulent in terms of my experience with hirsutism, but I am beginning to feel a more sincere sense of enthusiasm in dealing with this issue.
I have to run now, but I will reply to your message soon.
Wishing you the best for the new year!
-A.
This comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeleteNo it's alright, I understand that you don't check up on this that often as there aren't many of us.
ReplyDeleteI'm still pretty passive in my situation...
I've been sort of thinking about going to see a doctor but I don't know my family doctor well and there's only one endrocinologist on my island, who is male.
Also I don't think there'll be much for me anyways.
Also I think I may be entering a relationship...but a lot of the time I'm sort of becoming nervous and anxious about what he might think about me if he ever finds out...
But probably it won't work out anyways.
I hope to hear more from you soon,
Kokeshi
Hi Kokeshi,
ReplyDeleteSo here I am after a month. I really do apologise. Thank you so much for your letter. I understand a lot of what you have said, like you understand me. I guess we are in the same boat.
I face the same problem everytime I go see a doctor - they always recommend pills that I don't want to poison my body with, or some expensive method like electrolysis which is sometimes found to not be permanent!
I think it's great that you've started looking after yourself at such a young age which I think is a very brave thing to do. When I was younger, my initial reaction was always too shut it out and go frolick in this near-perfect dream world that I had made up in my head. Getting older, I am finding that this does not work too well!
I encourage you to not stop looking for help. Perhaps it is my personal bias, but I don't find conventional doctors very promising. A homeopath (classical) might be able to help better. Don't worry too much about being laughed at (that happened to me once, but he wasnt a very nice man), because there really isnt very much too lose. If a doctor laughs at you, at least you'll know right off the bat that s/he is a TERRIBLE doctor and you should NOT be wasting your time there.
I have actually fallen sick this week after a really long time. This morning, my housemate (also a very close friend of mine) said that she really wants to see me in love. All day long I've been lying in bed thinking about this. Then I realized that if I don't do something soon, I may lose out. Just maybe.
You said that you might be entering a relationship. I think thats really awesome! It's okay to be nervous and anxious and worry about what he might think. If you really like him, I would say go for it (even though honestly this is the exact opposite of what I say to myself!). Irrespective of whether or not it works out, the experience may help with breaking free of the many bounds hirsutism presents itself with.
I am not sure if you read that part of my post, but I said that I would be going to see a homeopath. Well, I never ended up doing that because I realized that I dont have enough money for the follow-up visits! Currently, I am saving up, so hopefully within a month, I may able to go. Also, I will be purchasing a Braun silk epil. I am absolutely sick and tired of waxing as it is messy and time consuming and I have to do it at absurd hours of the night when all my housemates are asleep. I have also started following a raw food vegan diet. It's pretty interesting, you should read up on it whenever you have the time. This diet supposedly alleviates a lot of illness so I figured it wouldn't hurt to try!
Once again, I apologise for my tardy response. I really do wish you all the best and hope that we both can overcome this.
I'll let you know when I learn how to swim and wear my first sexy dress :P
(oh man! what a day it will be!)
Take care Kokeshi, and I hope this message finds you well,
-A.
wow - i didnt intend for the message to be so long. sorry!
ReplyDeleteHaha, no problem about the post length!
ReplyDeleteI'm going to get a part-time job and start saving up money for some sort of treatment in a few months - when I'm old enough to get hired.
I really wish I weren't hairy because I feel like I'm missing out on so much stuff. D:
Whenever I go to the mall with a friend, they get sad and feel left out because I can't try on clothes with them. And when we go to a nice dress store, Mariposa, I end up just looking at the dresses and saying how pretty they are because I can't wear them with her.
I remember my friend offered to teach me to swim at the beach a few summers ago. Maybe I should've taken her up on that offer because that was my last summer I was able to wear a swimsuit (after that I grew lots of hair on my body and face too). :(
Right now I'm looking forward to my birthday and I'm looking for a few volunteer opportunities to add to my resume as well. I have a few places to look for work in mind already. It's kind of difficult because I want to be able to get the most income possible ($10/hr at a grocery store) but the place I'd like to work most is a small business and probably pay half that (at first anyways). It's weird because I usually don't care about money at all.
I have hirsutism upon my chin and it is not pretty. I struggle with the emotional tug-of-war also. My life is lonely at times, but I continue to live, travel, shop for designer finds, and enjoy my life.
ReplyDeleteLife goes on...I cannot allow other people to determine how I should live my life. I came into this world alone, and I will exit this world alone.
Hi
ReplyDeleteI am 23 and have suffered from Hirsutism ever since i could remember.
I got bullied and teased at school especially by the lads.
My breasts have become very small and im very thin.
I have the hair on my chin, sides, neck, palms and feet, back, bottom, forearms and thighs, chest and abdomen.
Im not going to lie it is so hard to be so hairy, i get laughed at alot.
I will put the money aside to get the areas that are visible waxed.
I dont think i will ever be able to find a guy who accepts this so am trying to get used to the idea that i may be alone forever. Which is a shame because theres lots id like to share with that special someone.
Also youve probably noticed im feeling pretty sorry for myself so any words of wisdom are most welcome.
xxx
hey,
ReplyDeletefirst of all i'm glad i've finally found such a blog, there are blogs about everything (including the lamest its and pieces) yet few are the one mentioning a vital topic , which's hisuitim !
At some point,i thought i might be odd and very few women suffering from this excessive hair! so here's my story, it might be a bit a long, since i've never shared my suffering with anyone else
I am now 21 , i have to bleach twice a week , wax , thread constantly to keep it clean, i tried electrolysis didn't work well with me. it hurts, some days i have no time to straighten my hair and let it down, but i MUST keep it down so as not to show the sides
i look at myself in the sun daily coz thats when u get the shock of how much u are actually working your ass off to get rid of hair, it's STILL THERE!
i chose my clothes so carefully, how much flesh to expose, though i have a nice toned body, i can't show it , keeping me staring at all the other girls, being free to wear whatever and whenever they want.
i seriously dont know what to do with the hair on my chest ! like the other day i found myself staring at some girl's chest and envying how clear and clean it is (No homo) it's more like self pity?
To make things worse, i used to shave my legs, and the hair would grow so coarse , while me being frustrated at the scene, i used to pop some underskin pores , leaving me with dark pigments (spots) like i needed that too?
In public i act all confident, but when i swim at home, or me staring at myself in the mirror i get all teary, it's hard to manage, and yes the good all saying that you have to embrace and live with what you have, and that if you do others would? seriously if i despise it, how would my partner feel about his girlfriend having more back hair that his!
it's pure torture, pigments, hair all over, excessive effort, seriously i'm tired!
i guess i bored whomever have read this , but ah well i'm glad i've finally let it out of my chest, since no one knows about my hirsutism except mom and sis
Regards
L
Hey everyone.
ReplyDeleteI'm a 21 year old female suffering with Hirsutism. I'm so thankful i finally found a website where i can actually talk to other people that know what i'm going through.
I have hair everywhere on my body, literally from head to toe. I let this run my life, i never show no skin. Well my arms i do, that's because i shave them. I can't wear shirts that are low cut (front or back) i dont want anyone to see the hair on my chest or back. Like a couple of girls mentioned before I dont feel like a female at all.
I wish there was something more permanent besides shaving. It's such a long process shaving everything but it makes me feel soo much better about myself. I can't even have sex with my shirt off,i make sure i always keep my shirt on. Im so embarrased by this.
I use to be able to wear my hair up, but now i constantly keep it down, because if i didnt you can tell i shave my sideburns, chin, and upper lip.
I myself do look at other females, jealous because their skin is so perfect and smooth but all you feel on my body is stubbles. How am i ever going to find a partner that can accept me for who i am, when i cant even accept myself.
I guess that's all i have to say, i'[m really not good with words but i know everyone here will get my drift.
Wow, I've read every comment and I can relate with each one. I used to be overweight, around 7th grade-11 years old then I lost over 30 pounds going into 8th grade & I believe that's when the hair started growing. & as the growth of hair continued my obsession with it as well. The first person to comment on my back hair was in 8th grade, also arm hair. Then in 9th grade arm hair, 10 grade arm hair again and then in 11th grade facial and arm hair. I've been wanting to go to the doctors and after reading these stories I'm going to. It's completely ridiculous to fathom the idea of hair ruling my life but at the same time I let it. I let it dictate my every move. I've let it break my heart, I've let it break others' hearts. I've let it put walls up higher than the Berlin Wall itself & it's time to knock it down. I was once a loving outgoing optimistic person but now I'm a envious shy pessimistic. I find myself behind a computer now instead of in front of a person. I am constantly on google trying to find any high resolution pictures of celebrity woman to see their hair on their bodies/faces just for the mere fact of knowing I'm not alone. One that I've seen quire often is Alyssa Milano, the only woman I'd ever idolize. I also always find myself taking out the mirror in the sunlight surveying the hideous curse I was given and any happiness I was holding is quickly erased once I recognize whose the reflection belongs to. I fear every thought and glance people give me. I once thought people looked at me because I was attractive but now I fear their only scrutinizing every pigmented hair on my body. I walk confidently but I always have a guard up & the second I'm alone it goes down as well as the confidence. I feel that I'm holding this deep dark secret whenever I'm meeting someone or with a person & I feel it's only a matter of time before I'm caught; I feel like I'm just some sort of mystery to be unraveled; some game to be played. Girls that don't have this problem aren't aware of how good they have it, how much freedom they have. At the same time I feel so guilty to let such a small issue get to me when people are dieing every second of every day while I sit passively as I watch my life away behind a mirror, but at the same it's a debilitating issue until you take control of it and not let it control you, something I'm currently working on.
ReplyDeletewow, I definitely relate to everyone on here. I am 24 years old and have been struggling with this since I was 12. I started shaving at 16 and it was the worst mistake of my life. the hairs on my face came back course and black, on my chin upper lip and cheeks. As I get older I see it spreading and everyday this is a struggle for me. I don't want to wake every morning. it takes time everyday to get ready and conceal my face, I wear foundation, a green concealer (which isn't helping, I think I need the color orange to hide the black spots) then set everything with powder. Then go over my chin areas as many times as I need to. I am a mother of a beautiful daughter, whom makes everything so much better. I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for 7 years now. He knows and feels bad for me but I feel worst and think he deserves someone better, he tells me he accepts me and shows genuine love to me but deep down I know he can't help but stare or look at my chin. I tell myself it's just my conscious, but interacting with people is to the very minimum. I have thought of killing myself and still do, but in scared to. I feel lucky to have found love and to have a family but I'm turning into a bitter person. all due to this curse I was bestowed upon. I don't know what to do, HELP PLEASE:'( :'( :'( :'(
DeleteHi Amina,
ReplyDeleteHopefully you haven't abandoned this blog as I have found it very helpful in the middle of a breakdown and a bit of self-discovery.
Like many, I've delt with a good amount of hair (on every piece of the body imaginable) since Kindergarten. The discovery started at five when another child pointed it out. Junior High was a horror movie of its own, as I was labeled weird for wearing sleeves in the summer. As I aged, my hair trials only worsened in highschool. Which has left me to wonder.
No, I'm not crazy. It seems every month I grow thicker, darker hairs. The process of removal alone is so time consuming (as you know), and the emotional turmoil has never been stronger in making me wonder how freeing it would feel to be a guy.
I am currently in the process of discovering whether or not I have hirsutism. At eighteen, I recently took a blood test and confided in a new pediatrics doctor. I have to get a recommendation from him to even get a response from an endicrinologist so I'm hoping he doesn't brush my concerns off.
Like you, I have a regular period, and am not overweight. Actually, I'm quite far from exhibiting the normal symptoms hirsutism and PCOS are often associated with except for excess hair growth. That is enough for me, but may not seem like enough for a doctor (which is currently my biggest fear.)
I still chuckle at the fact that one of the strongest desires for almost every hirsute female is to be able to slip into a bathing suit without having to worry about a hair anxiety attack. Sometimes I try to remind myself it could be so much worse, but I often find myself slipping under the worries of what others may think. Thankfully, the one good thing going for me is an accepting boyfriend.
My question to you: How was your hirsutism confirmed?
I commend you for your actions, and if confirmed for me I'm thinking about putting up a blog myself for others to take reassurance in. You have encouraged me greatly.
Much thanks, love, and respect,
Manda.
Hi Girls
ReplyDeleteIm 29 and I'd consider myself to have hirsutism (I have dark fairly thick hair on whole legs, stomach, around nipples, chin, backs of arms, bottocks)though I havent been diagnosed but I do have polycystic ovaries but because I am thin the doctor didnt think I could have PCOS though I am looking for another doctor because I have read it is also related to adrenal glands and stress, and I get stressed a lot! So I dont know if I will get a diagnosis and be given any medication, but Im also trying a raw vegan diet and chinese medicine and also naturopathy in the mean time. I let it rest for some years but now I'm just wondering about finding a solution to it because it could affect my fertility and that is a big concern for me.
Anyway I cant offer any solutions to the hair other than to say that I did get lazer on my whole legs, buttocks and stomach, bikini and while it cost $800 something it really worked well. The thought of spending that on 6 more sessions, on something that is cosmetic made me feel uncomforatable, I just thought at the time Id be better off donating it to a charity because at least that would be doing some good and adding value in the world, rather than just spending it on hair removal which seems like a wasteful, meaningless thing.
Anyway, even though I still think its ridiculous, I am now thinking of just getting it done, even if I take out a loan, cos I just want to be able to spontaneously get into my swimmers and go swimming any time and wear dresses without being able to see little hair roots spotted all over my legs.
But I digressed from what I wanted to say. I want to let you girls know that, yes there are some guys out there who will notice the hair or the stubble or whatever and think its yukky and they may question you or something. But in my experience and perspective of being a bit older and having had several nice boyfriends now, most guys either dont notice it, or they do and dont care. Because I'm lazy with hair removal Id often let it all grow and be like 'whatever, they have to accept me the way I am'.
But I had good reactions. My ex boyfriend thought it was 'hot' that I had the confidence to have sex with him with totally hairy legs and bikini. It made him more turned on that it was 'real' sex rather than sex with someone obsessed with how they looked and trying to be perfect. Thing is that I didnt really have the confidence, it was more that he used to try kissing me and tying to get me turned on and I would be sort of saying no (thinking I shouldnt because I hadnt shaved for a while), but then he used to kiss me and touch me so nicely and I'd be like 'wtf' I really want to have sex with him I dont care if my legs are hairy :-)...so it was more out of hornyness than being confident...(sorry if too much information!!)
Anther boyfriend of mine used to go on and on about my 'bush' that he thought was 'hot' too. guess cos most other girls get brazilians or something but i cant be bothered and its painful. but he loved that i had hair and thought it was a lot more beautiful and natural.
tbc...
Continued...
ReplyDeleteAnd also, I have just started dating this new guy and he is SO hairy it made me really relieved. We were at the beach and he took off his shirt and he is hairy all over his chest, arms, back and his hands and fingers, neck, everywhere. And then I though hey that's great.
We forget that men also that this pressure now to be hair free. In fact I have a lot of girlfriends that go on and on about how disgusting hairy guys are and how they hate it and could never date them. Personally I find a hot guy with a hairy chest sexy because it is masculine and it also says 'f*ck you' to the whole hair free trend and is showing confidence and acceptance of themselves.
While I haven't been intimate with the guy yet, I am thinking that because he is hairy then he might be more accepting of my hair legs etc. Not sure. But I just have a feeling he would be.
So, there you go, if you spot a hot hairy guy you like, he might be more understanding of the hirsutism!!
Also, my advice is to not be afraid of dating or sex because of the hair. With the right guy, you can be yourself, and have good fun. Its usually the more down to earth, mature, more educated guys that will be more accepting by the way.
Goodluck everyone.
I'm 20 and ive definitely had excessive hair since i can remember. I just stumbled on this site today and i actually didn't even know what hirsutism was 'till about a few weeks ago... I just always assumed i was abnormal and freakish my entire life... which i guess i am but as a lot of you girls with this same problem know, dealing with this your whole life thinking your all alone with this embarrasing problem that no other girls seem to have is HORRIBLE! and can really take a toll on your self esteem.
ReplyDeleteI have never ever ever told anybody EVER about it... until today, i actually pulled enough courage to tell my boyfriend about it. I told him how important it was and how much of an impact it has in my life and that he was the only person i had ever told and he completely understood and told me it did not change how he felt about me.
I just wanted to share that with the rest of you who think that being hirsute means you'll always have to hide it from the guy you love, or think they'll never get date. you just gotta find the right guy :)
This sites awesome thanks :)
Hi everyone! I do believe that I have hirsutism like the rest of you. It is quite traumatic D: I've been dealing with this aaalll my life. Ever since I was 6 maybe? So before the onset of puberty.
ReplyDeleteI'm 14 now, and its just horrible. I haven't been teased quite so much because I guess people in my area are nice. But there have been situations in which...its very embarrassing.
Sometimes, when I'm wearing a kind of high shirt (one that doesn't reach my thighs) I'm very careful when I'm stretching, so no one can see my belly hair. There is a "line" of hair on my stomach, and it's quite coarse. There is hair *everywhere on my body*, even the back of forearms.
Also, when I'm doing work in school and I teacher starts to look over my shoulder, I hide my hand under the desk because I have hair on my finger tips. It makes me really angry at my teachers-I wanna tell them to screw off and never bother me. I know I shouldn't, but hey, it cannot be helped.
Being "hairy" has definitely taken a toll on my self esteem. It affects my life in every single way, shape, or form. It sucks. I haven't been swimming in ages. I've never been a relationship, and I don't think any guy has liked me. I want *that* feeling, the feeling that many girls take for granted, the feeling of being able to wake up in the morning, slip on a short sleeve shirt, and not having to touch your arm.
I remember one time I was complaining to my mom about it. She's like "it'll get better honey, you'll grow out of it. I went through the same thing...for the time being, pluck that mustache, you look like a man"
I replied with "Mkay, well, what about my chest hair?" Mom: "You have chest hair??! *cough* Uhm-uhm. Just leave then I guess"
You can imagine my reaction.
What I hate the most is when I'm on my period. It's like hell breaks for me. Sometimes the sticky part of the pad attaches itself on the pubic hair. It hurts ; ~; And the stench is worse than a skunk.
Sigh...
There is hope however. I'm looking for alternative methods for hair reduction. I can't imagine myself for every single day of my life, me removing hair. It's too much. So one day I stumbled on a research thing...its like, fennel essential oil 2% with a cream helped reduce the hair on the faces of women by 18% in a 4 month period.
They did a placebo study (they tested women with just the cream without the fennel) and it turned out it did nothing.
btw, the women did not have PCOS
About a week ago I went to Target, I got a 5 oz spray bottle and some Smartwater. I'm going to mix some pure fennel essential oil I got from ebay with the water and put it in my spray bottle. It'll be higher than a 2% concentration. I'll be using it on my face and body. So guys, I'll try to update and stuff.
Btw,I'm really glad I found this blog. I knew I wasn't alone :) You're really brave for doing something like this.
Hi everyone! I do believe that I have hirsutism like the rest of you. It is quite traumatic D: I've been dealing with this aaalll my life. Ever since I was 6 maybe? So before the onset of puberty.
ReplyDeleteI'm 14 now, and its just horrible. I haven't been teased quite so much because I guess people in my area are nice. But there have been situations in which...its very embarrassing.
Sometimes, when I'm wearing a kind of high shirt (one that doesn't reach my thighs) I'm very careful when I'm stretching, so no one can see my belly hair. There is a "line" of hair on my stomach, and it's quite coarse. There is hair *everywhere on my body*, even the back of forearms.
Also, when I'm doing work in school and I teacher starts to look over my shoulder, I hide my hand under the desk because I have hair on my finger tips. It makes me really angry at my teachers-I wanna tell them to screw off and never bother me. I know I shouldn't, but hey, it cannot be helped.
Being "hairy" has definitely taken a toll on my self esteem. It affects my life in every single way, shape, or form. It sucks. I haven't been swimming in ages. I've never been a relationship, and I don't think any guy has liked me. I want *that* feeling, the feeling that many girls take for granted, the feeling of being able to wake up in the morning, slip on a short sleeve shirt, and not having to touch your arm.
I remember one time I was complaining to my mom about it. She's like "it'll get better honey, you'll grow out of it. I went through the same thing...for the time being, pluck that mustache, you look like a man"
I replied with "Mkay, well, what about my chest hair?" Mom: "You have chest hair??! *cough* Uhm-uhm. Just leave then I guess"
You can imagine my reaction.
What I hate the most is when I'm on my period. It's like hell breaks for me. Sometimes the sticky part of the pad attaches itself on the pubic hair. It hurts ; ~; And the stench is worse than a skunk.
Sigh...
There is hope however. I'm looking for alternative methods for hair reduction. I can't imagine myself for every single day of my life, me removing hair. It's too much. So one day I stumbled on a research thing...its like, fennel essential oil 2% with a cream helped reduce the hair on the faces of women by 18% in a 4 month period.
They did a placebo study (they tested women with just the cream without the fennel) and it turned out it did nothing.
btw, the women did not have PCOS
About a week ago I went to Target, I got a 5 oz spray bottle and some Smartwater. I'm going to mix some pure fennel essential oil I got from ebay with the water and put it in my spray bottle. It'll be higher than a 2% concentration. I'll be using it on my face and body. So guys, I'll try to update and stuff.
Btw,I'm really glad I found this blog. I knew I wasn't alone :) You're really brave for doing something like this.
Hi everyone! I do believe that I have hirsutism like the rest of you. It is quite traumatic D: I've been dealing with this aaalll my life. Ever since I was 6 maybe? So before the onset of puberty.
ReplyDeleteI'm 14 now, and its just horrible. I haven't been teased quite so much because I guess people in my area are nice. But there have been situations in which...its very embarrassing.
Sometimes, when I'm wearing a kind of high shirt (one that doesn't reach my thighs) I'm very careful when I'm stretching, so no one can see my belly hair. There is a "line" of hair on my stomach, and it's quite coarse. There is hair *everywhere on my body*, even the back of forearms.
Also, when I'm doing work in school and I teacher starts to look over my shoulder, I hide my hand under the desk because I have hair on my finger tips. It makes me really angry at my teachers-I wanna tell them to screw off and never bother me. I know I shouldn't, but hey, it cannot be helped.
Being "hairy" has definitely taken a toll on my self esteem. It affects my life in every single way, shape, or form. It sucks. I haven't been swimming in ages. I've never been a relationship, and I don't think any guy has liked me. I want *that* feeling, the feeling that many girls take for granted, the feeling of being able to wake up in the morning, slip on a short sleeve shirt, and not having to touch your arm.
I remember one time I was complaining to my mom about it. She's like "it'll get better honey, you'll grow out of it. I went through the same thing...for the time being, pluck that mustache, you look like a man"
I replied with "Mkay, well, what about my chest hair?" Mom: "You have chest hair??! *cough* Uhm-uhm. Just leave then I guess"
You can imagine my reaction.
What I hate the most is when I'm on my period. It's like hell breaks for me. Sometimes the sticky part of the pad attaches itself on the pubic hair. It hurts ; ~; And the stench is worse than a skunk.
Sigh...
There is hope however. I'm looking for alternative methods for hair reduction. I can't imagine myself for every single day of my life, me removing hair. It's too much. So one day I stumbled on a research thing...its like, fennel essential oil 2% with a cream helped reduce the hair on the faces of women by 18% in a 4 month period.
They did a placebo study (they tested women with just the cream without the fennel) and it turned out it did nothing.
btw, the women did not have PCOS
About a week ago I went to Target, I got a 5 oz spray bottle and some Smartwater. I'm going to mix some pure fennel essential oil I got from ebay with the water and put it in my spray bottle. It'll be higher than a 2% concentration. I'll be using it on my face and body. So guys, I'll try to update and stuff.
Btw,I'm really glad I found this blog. I knew I wasn't alone :) You're really brave for doing something like this.
Hi everyone! I do believe that I have hirsutism like the rest of you. It is quite traumatic D: I've been dealing with this aaalll my life. Ever since I was 6 maybe? So before the onset of puberty.
ReplyDeleteI'm 14 now, and its just horrible. I haven't been teased quite so much because I guess people in my area are nice. But there have been situations in which...its very embarrassing.
Sometimes, when I'm wearing a kind of high shirt (one that doesn't reach my thighs) I'm very careful when I'm stretching, so no one can see my belly hair. There is a "line" of hair on my stomach, and it's quite coarse. There is hair *everywhere on my body*, even the back of forearms.
Also, when I'm doing work in school and I teacher starts to look over my shoulder, I hide my hand under the desk because I have hair on my finger tips. It makes me really angry at my teachers-I wanna tell them to screw off and never bother me. I know I shouldn't, but hey, it cannot be helped.
Being "hairy" has definitely taken a toll on my self esteem. It affects my life in every single way, shape, or form. It sucks. I haven't been swimming in ages. I've never been a relationship, and I don't think any guy has liked me. I want *that* feeling, the feeling that many girls take for granted, the feeling of being able to wake up in the morning, slip on a short sleeve shirt, and not having to touch your arm.
I remember one time I was complaining to my mom about it. She's like "it'll get better honey, you'll grow out of it. I went through the same thing...for the time being, pluck that mustache, you look like a man"
I replied with "Mkay, well, what about my chest hair?" Mom: "You have chest hair??! *cough* Uhm-uhm. Just leave then I guess"
You can imagine my reaction.
What I hate the most is when I'm on my period. It's like hell breaks for me. Sometimes the sticky part of the pad attaches itself on the pubic hair. It hurts ; ~; And the stench is worse than a skunk.
Sigh...
ReplyDeleteThere is hope however. I'm looking for alternative methods for hair reduction. I can't imagine myself for every single day of my life, me removing hair. It's too much. So one day I stumbled on a research thing...its like, fennel essential oil 2% with a cream helped reduce the hair on the faces of women by 18% in a 4 month period.
They did a placebo study (they tested women with just the cream without the fennel) and it turned out it did nothing.
btw, the women did not have PCOS
About a week ago I went to Target, I got a 5 oz spray bottle and some Smartwater. I'm going to mix some pure fennel essential oil I got from ebay with the water and put it in my spray bottle. It'll be higher than a 2% concentration. I'll be using it on my face and body. So guys, I'll try to update and stuff.
Btw,I'm really glad I found this blog. I knew I wasn't alone :) You're really brave for doing something like this.
Oh, on my first post, I meant "finger knuckles" not "finger tips". Lol.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad this blog was created. At my current location hirsute women/lesbians are unsupported (Chicago, IL.). I feel much better now (@ 24) then I did 10 years ago, I use to consider myself suffering from werewolf sydrome till I came across the word hirsute :). I dont mind my hirsutism anymore, this is the way I am. Whether anyone likes it or not. Though I might be alone for the rest of my life, it still doesn't hurt to try to look for that special gal for me. The shaving is extremely difficult cause it grows back twice as fast and longer, so seriously considering what exactly is the point. Hirsute Power :-)
ReplyDeletehey hairychick101, did that fenel stuff work? pls let me know:)
ReplyDeleteHello Buddy..
ReplyDeleteHow are you..?
Whats method are you using for removing the unwanted hair..? till now..?
I have come across the product which has proved every effective for this problem..
I found it on the internet search with the name br. hair hinder
Basically what is described in its prescription is ...like..this..
*BR. Hair Hinder (only for external use) - is a UNIQUE Researched HERBAL LIQUID which is effective and easy to use at home. It does not cause any irritation on the skin and is thus very safe. The herbal extract liquid should be used after plucking the unwanted hair from the affected area. You just need to apply it after washing the area with any dry Toilet (Dettol) soap - twice daily (once at bed time and other anytime during day) for at least 1 week from the day of plucking (called 1 session). It is a dropper bottle and you shake the bottle well before use. These fine herbal extract particles go deep into the open hair pores (after hair being plucked) and make the roots dead. This stops the growth of hairs which are plucked well and retard the growth from the roots in which external shaft breaks while plucking.
So, when ever some hair growth comes in the area next time - you just need to pluck or wax and then apply *BR. Hair Hinder at home for 1 week. It takes 3-5 sessions to have visible change. Keep on applying like this for as many sessions as required until hair growth in the area is nil. This gives smooth skin with no discoloration - without using costly therapies with irritating side effects. Note- If a male is using *BR. Hair Hinder OR the lady has any menstrual problem or hormonal imbalance or PCOD, even in these cases the hair growth becomes weak and negligible with regular use of *BR. Hair Hinder :)
The product can reach you through courier..through out the world...
Hoping the best for you..
Dr.Bhandari
I have suffered from hirsutism since I was about 15 - I'm now 27. I remember putting hair removal cream on my breasts as a teenager and having tender, even painful breasts for days afterwards. Later, it became much worse and while I know my case is not the worst there is, it's still hard to live with. It's hard to have to hide parts of my body all the time, and live in constant fear of other people seeing my hair. It's hard because I feel like some sort of freak who has male pattern hair growth rather than female. The hair growth is worst on my breasts, and it's difficult because the skin here is also extremely sensitive. I've tried plucking, waxing, cutting, shaving, hair removal creams, applying turmeric, maybe other things, too. I don't remember. But A few days ago, I finally had enough. I have made an appointment to go to the doctor next week and today I had my first electrolysis appointment. The therapist told me that if it is a hormonal problem, no amount of electrolysis will make it go away, so if it is, I will have to look into changing my diet and lifestyle. I don't want to take medicine to change my hormones. I already took the pill on two separate occasions, about a year each time, and it had no effect on my hair. If anything, it made it worse when I came off it, by messing with my hormones in the first place.
ReplyDeleteHaving a blog like this is a wonderful thing. People who have never suffered from this problem have no idea what it feels like. It may seem like a trivial problem to them but it can ruin people's lives by keeping them from doing the things they really want to do. It helps a little bit to know that there are people out there who understand.
I have hirsutism. I have hair on my stomach and chest. It goes from my private area to my collarbone. Luckily, it's only a thin line of thick hair up to my belly button, then its just thin, but noticeable hair to my collarbone. I'm 14, and I'm certain that I'll adopt if I'm lucky enough. I don't want to have children that will suffer the way I did with hirsutism.
ReplyDeleteI have thin, DARK hair all over my bum cheeks, I have long sideburns. I look at my older brother and get so jealous. He's a boy, it's normal for guys to be hairy. But he isn't. My brother has very little arm and leg hair, it's only dark under his knees. He doesn't have sideburns. I feel so unwomanly.
I weigh 6 stone and I'm around 5'2". I'm too embarrassed to tell my family, no one else I know has hirsutism. I'm half Italian half Thai but I know it's not genes. I hate this :(
Hi,
ReplyDeleteSome things you lot may wanna look into:
supplements: (hormone balancing and menstrul regulating - key factors in hirsutism) as follows...
Indoplex
serenoa complex
hyponidd (works like metformin!! But instead all natural)
Homeopathic remedys:
Thuja Occ 200 weekly and Oleum Jecoris Asselli 3x (cod liver oil) twice daily except day u take Thuja.
Herbal tea blend twice or thrice a day:
spearmint, saw palmetto, vitex (chaste tree), Black cohosh - all super antiandrogenic which causes hair.
Dietry:
stay OFF refined sugars and carbs and dairy as much as you can!! They aggravate the hair.
But if u get crazy sugar cravings try taking Cinnamon Alpha Lipoc Acid pill. Solgar company does the best. worked in one day!
Also i knw a hirstute woman who swears by the Palmeo diet. Some very interesting facts! Look it up.
EXTERNALLY:
There are many hair inhibiting formulas out there. I heard of Richfeel Oleum cream and many others....
My personal all natural Hirsutism formula is:
Mix Neem and Grapeseed base oil.
Add essential oils of Turmeric, Angelica, and Fennel. Apply at night before bed. All renowned for hair control. This does wonders for acne and scarring too!
LASER and Electrolysis:
I started laser and im seeing some very good results. yes its expensive but on the long term it might even work out to be cheaper in comparison to how many waxing sessions u need to have. not to mention the emotional wellbeing which is priceless. I say it reduces about 80% of hair which feels amazing. every 1% counts for such a annoying problem!
But i heard electrolysis is more permanent on face so will consider that in the future.
FINALLY...
You need to diagnose the cause of you hirsutism. This means seeing your doctor for blood tests n scan for PCO. If its hormone related or due to PCO then Dianette or Metformin can be of help. My friend swears by Dianette for hair. If your not a fan on birth control pills then try the above natural remedies i suggested. you have nothing to lose! Plus there is nothing worse than sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.
I know how everyone feels because i felt the same. Just keep reminding yourself that this is just hair! It is removable or bleachable. it is not like cancer or HIV. Yes its very annoying but remind yourself that all beauty comes with a price. other women may not be hairy but they spend hours in sunbed for a tan or thousands on creams and plastic surgery to be younger. Then you have women who live at the gym to look toned. SO if your concern is hair then yes u have to adapt your lifestyle to suit your need. And yes thats several months of herbal teas and supplements and special diets and body oils - before you start seeing results. Good Luck and just enjoy life. Its too short to cry over fur everday. xx
I'm so glad I have found this blog! I have so much in common with the person who wrote this those few years ago. I am currently 20, have normal hormone levels (blood tests), am vegan (didn't alter my bodily hair patterns) and do not have PCOS. I would also like to wear a swim suit in my life or at least a dress without having to wear a cardigan over the top of it, even in the hottest summers. I'd also like to be able to have the option of being physically intimate in the future without being terrified of judgement and letting my embarrassment get the best of me. I'm trying to decide which option to tackle first to remove/disguise my hair. Laser/IPL is definitely not an option at the moment. It would take unimaginable amounts of money and time just to do most of the areas I need. Anyways, moving on, good post.
ReplyDeleteI should have read more of the comments before posting that last one (above ^). I guess I got so excited about discovering more women who know what a battle being hirsute it! I can relate to almost all of these comments. I've been excessively hairy since about 15. I show my arms out of having to in the summer....but I haven't worn a swim suit without knee length shorts and a sun shirt since I was about 14 anyways. And now I'm too terrified to try on a one-piece ultra modest swim suit D: The thought of being able wear a tank top or summer dress seems so close yet so far away all at once.
ReplyDelete-Bee
I'm so happy to know I'm not alone in this But I'm also sad cause I know how horrible it is to deal with. I think the worst part for me is how closed off I have become. I am in my early twenties and it definitely affects my quality of life. It's hard for me to get out there and do what I really want to do. I feel the same way about what's been said about wearing the pretty dresses and bathing suits. I actually love to swim but I never go anymore. And the rare times that I have gone I wear a t shirt and shorts and get questioning looks and comments as to why I cover up my nice body. Girls who don't have this don't know how lucky they are. I wish I could get up and throw on a nice dress, tie my hair back and keep on walking but that is not a reality for me. I spent way too much time on hair removal. Everyday I am removing something. It takes its toll on a person. I can say that I do have an understanding boyfriend. But even with that sometimes I think he will leave and find a smooth "normal" girl. It is tough to deal with as it takes its toll on your confidence and how you live your life, but I take it one day at a time. But remember that a lot of people on this earth deal with something that affects their everyday life, and I certainly believe it could be worse. If someone doesn't give you a chance or judges you because of it then you don't need them anyways. I hope everyone finds a way to deal with it and finds a way to feel better about the situation.
ReplyDeleteTake Care. XOXO.
- V.
Hey,
DeleteI can completely relate to this. If you ever need someone to talk to about this.. email me..mimi311092@gmail.com. i also get very down about this so im just trying to connect with ladies going through the same thing that understand :)
It has been three years from this blog post. I hope things are better for you.
ReplyDeleteBelieve me when I say this, there is guys who love and want a woman who is hairy. If it grows then, it must of been meant to be.
Well at least I am this way, hairy women are beautiful.
yes, it has been a while and i think i owe everyone an apology. things have been well, if not very well. and hope that it has been the same for everyone that has used this site. i will be updating again soon!!
ReplyDeletei know it shows as anonyomous, but it IS me, A.
Hi A,
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if you are still get messages. I am working on a new TV show and I was hoping to speak to you about hirsutism. Would you mind contacting me on mia.redemo@betty.co.uk Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you, Mia
hi
ReplyDeletei cant tell you how much i relate to what all you have said.
im going to turn 20 this november. i just dont like it you know, i have read that this problem only increases with age. I really try hard and very hard to not thing about this problem much you know, because its just hair and no big deal right?
but unfortunately reality isnt like that.
i have mild acne, hirsutism and i also have feeling im losing a little hair in the head.or maybe its the pessimistic me!!
. i hate my hirsutism. i just want to cry and shout about it. Though im actualy growing in mind becoming open-minded, out-going person, fun and a realistic person. I still cannot show people the way i am in real life. i behave reserved 7 i shy away from making new friends, i even try to not give any clue to the guy i like , that i like him ! my life has become a misery. Its effecting me mentally, academically and i hate to think about the future. i can easily make out that the guy whom i like , likes me too. But somehow has soon as he comes closer to me, he starts observing me . i get totally self-conscious! because i have every reason to be. im fair and have a pretty good face and even personality. the only shitty thing in my goddamn life is hair!!
i have been tested for PCOS and even higher testosterone levels which came negative 2 years back. but the hair growth and acne have increased now after months after stopping Diane! i had aphase at around 18 years when i stayed in hostel and due to lots of stress and shit i had a pathetic eating habit!!
i have always had a thin frame. but after that i had gained like 7-8 kgs or more than that. sometimes i feel even worse because i blame it on myself.
my mom tells me to look at it in brighter way- that the endocrinologist told us , i might be having "idiopathic hirsutism"
but every day, the pain of getting up watching my face which was once so clear ( long back) because even before puberty i have had issues with hair!. it increased a lot after that though! and a lot more now. i hate the route it is taking. I have decided to start excersing and to decide very cautiously about what i want to eat and not!
im thankful for letting me share. this is my first!!
i shared becuase i found your experince not different from mine. im going through it to!
.
Hey there!
DeleteI guess I subscribed to new comments on this blogpost several years ago because I see that I was a teenager when I last commented.
I don't know if it makes any difference to you, but I have found in my experience that guys care very little about my body hair. In fact, it's almost a bad thing how many guys have been after me despite my hair issue.
I feel like girls are definitely more negative/vicious about it - and that could include bullies or just you to yourself.
That's not to say I'm not still self-conscious. I with think the bullying I had at a young age, I'll never really be one of those self-confident people - this weakness is too ingrained in my personality. I definitely wish the adults in my life took this issue more seriously. Maybe I would've been a totally different person.
Anyways, hope you are doing well. Don't hesitate to comment back if you need someone to chat with! :)
hiee thanks for replying ! :)
ReplyDeleteyeah this is a very old blog. but i just really had to comment after i read your story :)
how are you doing ? i mean especially with the hair issues?
i like this guy , my friend infact. i had mentined this earlier.
Do you think i should just be honest about my hirsutism if in case i get into a simple relationship with this guy.
( by simple - i mean- no physical relationsip)
i really hate being dishonest ! :(
so this is pretty much why i havent even been in relationship till now. i find myself always keeping distance with guys because i have been like it since i was kid and had upper lip hair, and hairy legs and hands. my mom didnt get it removed then so she partly became responsible for my personality to develop like this ! i just find it very difficult( extremely ) to come out of this boundary now! i feel fear of being judged, neglected and hurt ( for hair reasons only otherwise i love myself and wont take shit from others!).Because though i am brave as a person in all other matters( always been) but in this matter i really am sensitive about it.
do reply when you are free :)
Thanks A
thanks for letting me share.
Hi my names M____ and I'm 16 years old.I haven't been diagnosed with hirsutism yet because I'm so afraid to talk to anyone about it in real life but I have excessive hair all over my stomach, back, hands, legs and basically everywhere apart from my face.
ReplyDeleteI tried to ignore it as I'm usually a confident girl and I want to be happy in my skin as I am but I'm really struggling as I've noticed hair across my boobs lately.
Its really destroying my confidence and body image because I have no one to talk to that understands and I'm just hoping someone on here maybe has more experience than me.
-I have regular periods and I'm not overweight I'm actually very skinny.
-I don't eat any red meats as I'm a vegetarian if that helps.
-I don't really exercise
-my mam has told me before that I had hair all down my back even as a baby
-my mams family has some traveler background and they can be quite hairy I heard, as well as my dad being a hairy man.
Is there any way to treat this naturally or should I go to the doctor?? Am I making it worse by not going?? If your older or have more experience than me please reply I'm getting desperate and i don't want to hate my body anymore...
Thanks for listening
M ��
I first had symptoms when i was 17 and was told that i had PCOS (thin people type PCOS) and was officially diagnosed at 22 ans now i am 35. I have always had regular periods and unless on birth control pills were they irregular at times and I had a hard time getting pregnant because of the absent periods. I was always told by doctors that I would have a hard time conceiving so I would only go on the pill periodically which i did for more than 4 years, not for protection against getting pregnant, but just to get a period (since I was told it's not healthy to have less than 4 or so periods a year). Last time I went on a 3 month birth control pill and then stopped again because the medicine was not curing my pcos nor making me get pregnant. I went in search for a cure and ended up with so many drugs, medicine and even soaps that didn't work. I actually thought at a point that i was cursed that there is no cure for it, i was prepared to live like that till i read a testimony of a patient who suffered from pcos whose case was even worse than mine and how she was cured completely, I was amazed and at thesame time anxious and curious so i had to contact the doctor with the contact details that she left on the note. The doctor gave me so much hope and confidence with her kind words of encouragement to believe in myself and i was lifted because no one has ever given me hope like that before. I ordered the medicine, took it for 8 weeks and to my complete surprise, all the facial hairs, weight gain and all disappeared I ended up getting pregnant within a few weeks of completing the treatment! I was in shock. I think the main reasons it happened was that I never gave up and was ready to try alternative treatment so my body was back to normal. Before now i never enjoyed sex because it was very painful but now i do and my husband is the best thing that ever happened to me.. I hope this inspires some of you because I never in a million years would have thought that I would get pregnant and was getting frustrated and now our baby is due next month! You too can reach her on [aletedwin@gmail.com] for more information, advise and also how to place an order for yours.
ReplyDeleteHai shruti
Delete